Peter’s Journey to Success Through Life Coaching
How Life Coaching Sessions Gave Peter
The Tools to Change His Life
A few years ago, I met a guy with an amazing story. His story is actually no different to hundreds of other stories that I have heard but Peter (not his real name) came to a crossroad and the decision that he made at that point changed the direction of his life.
Peter grew up in a large family in the country. His Mother took in washing and ironing to keep food on the table for her family. His father was a gambler and an alcoholic who came home drunk every night. His Mother insisted on the children being in bed before he got home but it was difficult to ignore the abuse she endured night after night through the thin walls. At 15, Peter left home and went to Sydney where he got involved with a gang, experimented with drugs (thankfully he decided they weren’t for him) and made alcohol, crime and violence his way of life. He spent time in jail on several occasions and made some extremely dangerous and unsavoury friends.
When he was 25, Peter’s Mother died and this had a major effect on him. Within 2 years he moved away from Sydney to Melbourbne. He worked as a labourer on a building site. He left his life of crime behind but just like his father, he buried himself in the bottom of a glass every day. A good night out for him was to get drunk and get involved in a fight.
When he was 34, he met his wife and they had 2 children, built a home, moved to Qld and eventually he bought his own business. His life seem to be working fine for a number of years.
However, Peter was a very angry and unhappy man. He began drinking heavily again and his wife was frequently the target for emotional abuse. He began his drinking and fighting cycle again and his business began to decline. Unlike his father, he had a great relationship with his children and Peter and his wife went to great lengths to maintain the illusion of a happy family when they were around.
But eventually his life came to a crisis point and that’s when I met him. I have to admit I was more than a little reluctant to work him. But, when someone comes to you and says that they need to deal with their anger issues because they are afraid they are going to shoot their family and themselves if they don’t get help, you need to take action. I frequently use my astrology profiling skills before I begin working with someone. Peter was a very strong Scorpio. In fact he had several planets in Scorpio and they were all being activated in a big way. Scorpios have a reputation for being passionate and when that is mixed with alcohol it can be very nasty. If there was ever a time for him to take action in his life it was at that moment and mine was the door that he knocked on for help.
I opened the door to this angry Scorpio who was covered in black tattoos. I said a prayer to every god on the planet to assist me. I was certainly in foreign territory because the things that Peter told me about himself were enough to make my hair stand on end. For instance, he told me that he was carrying a cricket bat around in his car boot because he had seen someone in town from his old life in Sydney who’d hooked a former girlfriend of his on drugs. To use his words, when he found him he was going to beat the crap out of him until he was dead. He was deadly serious and didn’t care that he would go back to jail. As he talked about it, his whole neurology was lit up like a christmas tree. So at that point I asked him if he really wanted to let go of his anger and to my surprise he was adament that he had to.
So I took him through the anger intervention with Time Line TherapyTM which took about 10 minutes. At the end of the process, he was adament that his anger had gone, but part of me was extremely skeptical. So I said to him.. “that cricket bat you’re carrying around….” and he laughed a genuine laugh and said “that’s a pretty bloody stupid thing to do isn’t it?” “I’m not going to waste my life on some low life.” We then let go of sadness and a couple of other negative emotions and limiting decisions and he left. He looked totally different as he left.
He came back the next week and he said he felt like he had no life. His whole life had been based on anger and violence and now it was gone. We spent a couple of hours cleaning up some issues using NLP, Hypnosis and Time Line TherapyTM including his desire to drink alcohol and we created a new future for him.
I was to see him again in two weeks. But I received a call from his wife prior to the next session cancelling his appointment. Now this didn’t please me because up until then he had been completing the tasks I set for him, so I told her to tell him to call me. She told me that she is living with a completely new man who she is enjoying getting to know. She told me that I had saved her husband and her family but I assured her that it was Peter who had done that because without his strong desire to change his life, nothing would have changed.
A few hours later, Peter called me and I told him that we had an agreement that he would complete the therapy sessions but he said to me.. “Rhonnda, I’m sorry but I really can’t make it. I do have a very good reason. In the last two weeks I have won 2 multi million dollar contracts, I’m up to my neck in hiring more staff and for the first time in my life, I feel like I am truly alive. I don’t need to see you.” I felt a great rush of pleasure run through me and I knew he was telling me the truth. So I said to him… “Peter that is great news. Telling me that you don’t need me anymore is the greatest compliment you can give me particularly with what I hear in your voice.”
I hear from him from time to time and he’s doing just fine. It’s never too late to create a successful life. All it takes is a desire to do so.